Working Gurl...

Wow, can't believe I haven't posted for a month. I'm still here. Just got busy with work. Yay. I have been working for Y for a month now, been good, the job is not rocket science hard. I am liking it. Also, got another part-time job at the B, and I started last Thursday. I can keep both jobs since their hours are different. I was praying about it and I got it. Thank GOD.

Will start saving for our trip back in the Philippines and helping out NG with the expenses here at home. I bought groceries last Saturday, that felt good. :)

Whenever I'm online, I can be found on Facebook or on Twitter. I haven't abandoned this blog. My online time just decreased a bit. I am not complaining though. Work = Cash. I'm all for cash baby.

Have a good one. God bless.

Grateful Me...

My belated birthday gifty from Mrs. Cook!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE pens!!!

Last weekend, MajorDad gave me 3 boxes [200 packets per box] of Splenda and more coffee. I still have coffee from the one he gave me last November. I don't know why he gave me multiple boxes of Splenda BUT I am grateful. I'm the only one who drinks coffee here at home. He also gave me Honey Nut Cheerios and Apple Juice. I have a generous father in-law. :)

I got the part-time job that I applied for last week. Interviewed last Monday, went back on Tuesday for orientation and I will start on Wednesday. My working hours will be from 6am to 12nn. NG said this is a good start since I've no work experience and background in this country. I have to establish a job history then I can find for a full-time job. I'm happy to have a job, even if it's a part-time job, for now.

Last Monday, NG and I went to the Card Factory Outlet, that is my happy place. In time, I see myself spending more than 10 minutes in that place. Hee. So many cards, so little time. I love greeting cards!!!

Anyhoo, that's about it for now, will play some poker for now. Have a good weekend. God bless.

And Here I Blog Again...

I'm a bad blogger and I know it. I'm not like some people who can blog on a regular basis. I tried doing that before but it didn't work out so well. And I think, I found an answer to quick-blogging without having to worry that you've come up with 500 characters or less. Twitter to the rescue. I've have the site bookmarked since last year but never found the urge to sign up. I finally did. And I see myself updating my twitter account more than once a day. HAH! So, if you're on twitter, I'm on it too. :)

Last Friday, my cousin in-law from Jersey called me and we chatted for an hour or so. She mentioned a site that her kids are following, so, I checked it out and needless to say, I spent my weekend watching Happy Slip. My favorite were vids of her visit to the Philippines. It made me miss my family and friends more. The director/actor/writer of the vids explains 'What is a happy slip?'
While growing up, my mom was always quick to remind me to wear a half slip with my dresses or skirts. She would say "Be sure to wear your hap eslip!!". So I grew up thinking the term was always "happy slip", until I was corrected by classmates who asked me if I had a sad slip as well.

I'm pretty sure you are in one or more [like myself] of those network sites. I have my relatives here in the USA on my Facebook. I have my favorite musicians on my Myspace. I have my photos on my Multiply. I have my high school and grade school friends on my Friendster. Is that too much networking or what? Whatever. I have time for those things...for now.

It's the third month of 2009, how time flies FAST!!! In two months and a few weeks, it'll be my first year here in Omaha. Imagine that. I remember back in the day, I kept telling NG I don't think I'll make it out here but he kept saying, "you will, just a matter of time..." and now, I am here. Good sigh.

I think, winter is almost over. Yay. Can't wait winter to be over. I've experienced snow and negative temperatures, let's bring the above 50 degrees temps now. I need to sweat. :)

Have a good one. God bless.

1976.02.16

I got this from the Birthday Calculator. Thank you for the greets. :)

Your date of conception was on or about 26 May 1975 which was a Monday.

You were born on a Monday
under the astrological sign Aquarius.
Your Life path number is 5.

Your fortune cookie reads:
Love always and deeply.

Life Path Compatibility:
You are most compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 1, 5 & 7.
You should get along well with those with the Life Path numbers 3 & 9.
You may or may not get along well with those with the Life Path number 8.
You are least compatible with those with the Life Path numbers 2, 4, 6, 11 & 22.

The Julian calendar date of your birth is 2442824.5.
The golden number for 1976 is 1.
The epact number for 1976 is -1.
The year 1976 was a leap year.

Your birthday falls into the Chinese year beginning 1/31/1976 and ending 2/17/1977.
You were born in the Chinese year of the Dragon.

Your Native American Zodiac sign is Otter; your plant is Fern.

You were born in the Egyptian month of Parmuthy, the fourth month of the season of Poret (Emergence - Fertile soil).

Your date of birth on the Hebrew calendar is 15 AdarI 5736.
Or if you were born after sundown then the date is 16 AdarI 5736.

The Mayan Calendar long count date of your birthday is 12.18.2.11.0 which is
12 baktun 18 katun 2 tun 11 uinal 0 kin

The Hijra (Islamic Calendar) date of your birth is Monday, 15 Safar 1396 (1396-2-15).

The date of Easter on your birth year was Sunday, 18 April 1976.
The date of Orthodox Easter on your birth year was Sunday, 25 April 1976.
The date of Ash Wednesday (the first day of Lent) on your birth year was Wednesday 3 March 1976.
The date of Whitsun (Pentecost Sunday) in the year of your birth was Sunday 6 June 1976.
The date of Whisuntide in the year of your birth was Sunday 13 June 1976.
The date of Rosh Hashanah in the year of your birth was Saturday, 25 September 1976.
The date of Passover in the year of your birth was Thursday, 15 April 1976.
The date of Mardi Gras on your birth year was Tuesday 2 March 1976.

As of 2/16/2009 7:58:50 AM EST
You are 33 years old.
You are 396 months old.
You are 1,722 weeks old.
You are 12,054 days old.
You are 289,303 hours old.
You are 17,358,238 minutes old.
You are 1,041,494,330 seconds old.

Celebrities who share your birthday:
Steffani Brass (1992) John McEnroe (1959) Ice-T (1958)
LeVar Burton (1957) Sonny Bono (1935) Patty Andrews (1920)
Hugh Beaumont (1909) Edgar Bergen (1903)

Top songs of 1976
Tonight's the Night by Rod Stewart
Silly Love Songs by Wings
Don't Go Breaking My Heart by Elton John & Kiki Dee
Disco Lady by Johnnie Taylor
Play The Funky Music by Wild Cherry
December, 1963 (Oh What a Night) by Four Seasons
50 Ways to Leave Your Lover by Paul Simon
Kiss and Say Goodbye by Manhattans
If You Leave Me Now by Chicago
Love Hangover by Diana Ross

Your age is the equivalent of a dog that is 4.71780821917808 years old. (You're still chasing cats!)

Your lucky day is Saturday.
Your lucky number is 4 & 8.
Your ruling planet(s) is Saturn & Uranus.
Your lucky dates are 1st, 10th, 19th, 28th.
Your opposition sign is Leo.
Your opposition number(s) is 1.

Today is not one of your lucky days! [and everyone, including me thinks that their birthday is their lucky day...heee]

There are 365 days till your next birthday
on which your cake will have 34 candles. [I just turned 33, let's not think about 34 yet...]

Those 34 candles produce 34 BTUs,
or 8,568 calories of heat (that's only 8.5680 food Calories!) .
You can boil 3.89 US ounces of water with that many candles.

In 1976 there were approximately 3.1 million births in the US.
In 1976 the US population was approximately 203,302,031 people, 57.4 persons per square mile.
In 1976 in the US there were approximately 2,152,662 marriages (10.1%) and 1,036,000 divorces (4.9%)
In 1976 in the US there were approximately 1,921,000 deaths (9.5 per 1000)
In the US a new person is born approximately every 8 seconds.
In the US one person dies approximately every 12 seconds.

In 1976 the population of Australia was approximately 14,110,107.
In 1976 there were approximately 227,810 births in Australia.
In 1976 in Australia there were approximately 109,973 marriages and 63,230 divorces.
In 1976 in Australia there were approximately 112,662 deaths.


Your birthstone is Amethyst

The Mystical properties of Amethyst:
Amethyst is used to increase spiritually

Some lists consider these stones to be your birthstone. (Birthstone lists come from Jewelers, Tibet, Ayurvedic Indian medicine, and other sources)

Bloodstone, Onyx, Moonstone

Your birth tree is: Cedar, the Confidence

Of rare beauty, knows how to adapt, likes luxury, of good health not in the least shy, tends to look down on others, self-confident, determined, impatient, wants to impress others, many talents, industrious, healthy, optimism, waiting for the one true love, able to make quick decisions.


There are 312 days till Christmas 2009! [yay...]
There are 325 days till Orthodox Christmas!

The moon's phase on the day you were born was waning gibbous.

February 2009...

The Australian Open [the first Grand Slam tennis tourney of the year] just ended. Rafa Nadal got the trophy vs Roger Federer in a 5-set match. I love watching tennis, it's the one sport that I follow. Someday, I'd be able to witness a grand slam tourney, I'm not picky as to which one, but the US Open is more likely to happen since I am already in the country. Though, I really want to be in Wimbledon. Someday. Somehow.


NG's co-worker gave us a Crock Pot last December, I tried it over the weekend. Cooked some ribs on it. Turned out really tender to the point that they were separating from the bone. I love it. Tender meat is goody. I know I'll be using this appliance a lot. Whee.


NG and I got to try the Wii last week. We tried boxing. I let him win. Hee. Though, he'll say he beat me. I know better. [wink wink]

Missy Higgins is coming to town next month. NG already got us tickets for her show. Howie Day will be in town too. Whee. Been a fan since Collide came out. I'll just hope NG is off that night for his show.

NG and I have been following Confessions of a Teen Idol on VH1 mainly because of Jamie Walters but as week goes by, I've realized, with or without Jamie, that show is actually a good reality tv show. One show that is not good but we watch it anyway is, Tool Academy. It's like a guilty pleasure. Hee. That show makes us laugh.

American Idol is on once again. NG gives me crap about watching the show but we both know we'll be watching that show if he's home in time for that. Hah. LOST latest season started too, I have to watch the 3 episodes on ABC.com, must see Sawyer. How I missed him.

It's a brand new month. Whew. Where did January go? In a few weeks I'll turn a year older [and a year wiser...hee] How time flies, indeed. Just praying my work permit will come this month. Here's wishing you a mighty fine February. God Bless.

Oh, btw...

I got a letter of apology from the USPS [United States Postal Service] saying that a few of the Christmas cards I sent were damaged during the handling process. They attached parts of the front of the envelopes. I don't know if those were the only damaged cards. I counted 4. Sigh. It was frustrating but I am glad they told me about it. We sent out around almost 80 cards this Christmas. So, if you didn't get yours, it probably got damaged. :(

Been here in O for almost 8 months now. I'm still waiting for that work permit. Sigh. It gets to me most of the time but I really don't have a choice but to wait. I hope it gets here this month. This is, by far, the longest time that I haven't had work. Oh well. I don't like it but it is what it is for now. Must follow the law and what not.

NG will have his birthday soon, I asked him what he wants for his birthday, he said, he already got it. I wonder what that is or who that is. Hee. Either way, I already have something for him.

I have been playing Texas Hold'em Poker online, I'm really enjoying it, keeps me occupied while I wait for NG to come home from work. Come join me at Poker Palace.

I spend more time at Facebook nowadays, more relatives are in there. All good. Fun to catch up with their dailies. I'm happy about that.

I'm having cramps right now, it's that time of the month once again. Must go. Have a good one. Keep the faith. God Bless.

And We Turn 4...

Today, NG and I are celebrating our fourth anniversary. Who would have thought? Coming from a long-distance relationship, 4 years is quite a long time. This is our first time to be together on our anniversary. No more emails, webcam chats, text messaging and phone calls on this day. Been there, done that. Don't wanna do that again. We've exchanged cards. Tears abound, mostly mine, I'm such a cry-baby. SIGH. We have a long way to go, I pray we'd always have our faith in each other and most importantly in God. Do include us in your prayers too. Keep the faith, I know, it can be tough from time to time. God Bless.

Cold December in O...

It's December.

I don't like getting my period, the painful cramps makes me bitchy and irritable hence I just wanna take naps. Hate cramps. Men are sooooo lucky they don't endure this every month.


Saw the commercial for Trust Me last night while watching Cheech & Chong Roasted with NG. I half-squealed when I saw Ed Stevens on the screen, the show will start airing in January 2009. Something to look forward too.


According from Yahoo Movies, The Dark Knight is the most-watched trailer of the year, I thought it would be Twilight with all the buzz on that book/movie. I miss E! Coming Attractions.

My first Thanksgiving went good. It was NG's first Thanksgiving here at the casa. Our first Thanksgiving. I prepared the gravy, stuffing and mashed potatoes. NG was in charge of things that went inside the oven like the pies, biscuits and heating of the smoked turkey breasts. NG enjoyed preparing the our first Thanksgiving as much as I was. MajorDad brought 2 bottles of white wine. I don't normally drink wine or champagne but since it's a special occasion, I finished half a glass. I like my drinks fruity where I can't taste the bitterness of the alcohol. I like it that way with my drink.

It snowed Sunday morning. My first snow experience. I took some pictures. Will just post it when I get them transferred from my camera to my laptop. I'm lazy right now. Speaking of laptops, NG bought additional memory and disk space for my laptop, I didn't ask for it but he said, consider it an advance Christmas gift.

I've been playing Texas Hold'em on Myspace, Facebook and Pokerstars. I win some, I lose lots, good thing they are play money. I've never played poker for real except for that one time with the EBC gurls and most of us didn't know what was going on. Hee. That was fun.

Here's to a good December for you and me. God Bless.

A Week Before Thanksgiving...

YEAH, that's how fast my laptop is...I WISH.

I got me some flairs. You surely can kill time at Facebook, I don't even know how many apps I got in there. I go in and just whatever. I like the Unending Trivia quiz though.

November 15, 2008 @ The Slowdown. Matt Nathanson. I wanna be taller when I grow up. Hee. The gig was sold out a few weeks before the show date. NG got lucky and won some tix [and a meet & greet pass] from Q98.5 . It was a fun night. I added 2 new artists [Jessie Baylin and The Break & Repair Method] on my Myspace page. The next night, we watched Ingrid Michaelson and I added two more artists [David Ford and Newton Faulkner, they're both English, hearing them talk was a bonus] on my Myspace page. It was a goody weekend for us. Glad NG's weekend-off fell on those dates.

I thought I'd get back to reading with these books. I miss reading even if it makes me sleepy. The Twilight series is the best-seller nowadays, I don't know what's the fuss is about. Hee. I guess, I'm getting old for that stuff? I don't know. Though, I want to see the movie, looked interesting.

NG got me a purple mini-mouse. He was excited as he handed it to me. I was more excited, of course, purple mouse, baybee. Sweet.

Sam & Ruby is a must.

Made a list of people to send Christmas cards to for this year. NG only had a handful of people to send to but since we are considered as one now, he's sending to about 70 people as well. We went to the FACTORY CARD OUTLET last Sunday. That place is sooooooo my happy place. Lotsa cards, I would have to go there by myself one time, I just have to figure out which bus[es] to take.

http//www.jetpunk.com/quizzes/how-many-countries-can-you-name.php I only got to name 40 countries in 5 minutes. There are 195 listed on that quiz.

It's 30 degrees F here in O! and it's bound to go down to 15 throughout the day. COLD COLD COLD for myself. It could also snow tonight.

It'll be my first Thanksgiving next Thursday. We might have it here at home. MajorDad, NG and me. We'll just buy our Thanksgiving grub at Walmart, most likely. If that doesn't pan out, we'll be having Thanksgiving dinner @ one of the Casino buffets in town. Hee. NG's off Thursday to Saturday for the Thanksgiving weekend. Yay. Happy about that. He'll have 2 weekends off next month as well. All good. So many things to be thankful for this year. SIGH. I am grateful for everything and I ALWAYS thank God for that. Keep the faith.

Say hi to your mother for me...

Mark Walhberg is my #2 laminated. Hee. Hummina hummina. Andy Samberg did a good impression. Love the bit. Love Mark.

It's a new month. Getting colder here in O, not so much the past few days though, thank God. I had my first Halloween, gave out candies, not a lot of kiddies came by though. We have leftover candies, any takers? Hee.

Had an online VS with the EBC gurls last Sunday, I had 4 glasses of Absolut Pears with Crangrape juice. Eee had 8 or 9, Mano & Doctora both had 4 glasses as well. 5 hours online with them. We didn't get disconnected on YM. Webcam and voicechat was on too. Gotta love technology yes? I do.

It'll be 6 months on the 25th for me since I got here. Wow. Six months with no work, sigh, I am not liking that fact but can't do anything but wait for the work permit to come through. How time flies yes?

Here's to a good November for you and me. Keep the faith. God bless.

On a cold October day here in O...

Jamie had a small gig last September 30th in LA and he's working on a new album and will have a TV project due out next year. Yay. For now, you can get updates via his myspace page at www.myspace.com/jamiewaltersofficial or at jamiewalters.com.

Your Pizza Says:

You love the food you grew up eating, and it's mostly what you still eat. You don't go for a big variety of foods. You just have a few favorites you stick to. Pizza Topping You Should Try: Sausage or Canadian bacon Stay away from: Anything you can't pronounce

The Pizza Test

I am here. Thought I'd do an update. I finally filed my status adjustment beginning of the month. I got the receipt notice last Friday. It'll be around 90days or more for the status adjustment to be processed. 60-90 days for the employment permit. Waiting game it is for now.

I watched Sex and the City, the movie yesterday, it made me miss my gurlfriends, made me nostalgic too. Sigh. I need a drink. Did I cry while watching the movie? If you know me, you'd know the answer to that.

I've been following Survivor Philippines and I'm enjoying it. I don't like the host much but other than that, I'm glued to the show.

It's getting colder here in O, yesterday it was in the 40s. We didn't even turn the AC on. Even NG used the comforter. If NG gets under the comforter that means it is cold. Right now, it's around 50s but it's supposed to go down the 30s tonight. Wow. I am not looking forward to the winter. Just have to deal with it. Will get winter clothes soon.

I'm gonna go for now. Must do some grilling, we're having Tilapia flakes for dinner. Hope you're all having a good mid-week. Keep the faith. God bless.

One of them days...

MajorDad gave this to us. We only have a handful of spices here at home, will have to get more so we can use this cool thingy.

My cousins Tin, Nadine and AJ, taken from the anniversary dinner of Tita Loida & Tito Raf. Missing them esp. Nadine's story-telling about anything and everything.

Been spending time on youtube lately and here are a few channels that I've been following lately, you might want to check them out if you have time.

Last Friday, I went to the mall, I got there okay. Found what I was looking for. On my way home, stopped by McDonald's and got some food. I was 11 blocks away from home. Waited at the North Omaha Transit Center. I know what bus number I was going to take. Waited some more. Finally, bus #18 arrived. The driver said how I was doing. I said, I was ok and asked him the same, he said, he's tired. I paid my fare. First time I didn't asked if the bus would take me to my destination. FIRST TIME that I didn't ask. And it turned out to be something that I would regret.

The bus was going the opposite direction, I just kept quiet, because I thought the bus will just go around as they do on their routes. BUT this particular bus was going to the garage after the route. The driver let me off to a street/bus stop where the same bus number will pass by and take me to my destination. It would have been okay except the next bus didn't come until an hour after. And when that bus finally came, it didn't stop. I hailed it. BUT for some reason, that I still and don't and may not ever know, the bus DIDN'T stop. I was the ONLY one at that stop. I was wearing a red shirt that it would be impossible to miss seeing me. SIGH. I lost it around that time and I cried out of frustration. I was in an area that I'm not familiar with. I was the only one waiting. Only passing cars and other type vehicles come and go. It was a scary time for me. I didn't know if there was a next bus coming since it was getting close to 8pm [good thing, even at that time, the sun was still up].

I waited another 45 minutes when bus #18 came by again, this time, I asked the driver if it was gonna pass by my destination. And thank God it was going that way. Was praying all throughout my wait in that bus stop. 2 hours me thinks. I cried some more when I got home. I'm a cry baby, couldn't help it. There were messages from NG on the machine waiting for me, that he was getting worried that I'm still not home when I told him I will be home around 2 hours earlier. SIGH. We got to talk about it when he got home and he decided, the next time I go out, I'll bring his phone with me, until I get my own. So, I can reach him if something like that happens again. I told him that will not happen again. It was MY mistake for not asking. I always asked the driver if it was going to where I was going the past times that I took the bus. It was the first time that I didn't ask and I paid big time. I rode the bus again last Monday, even transferred to another bus to get to my destination and I asked the driver each time. I learned my lesson. ALWAYS ASK, no matter what.

Met NG at Sam's Club after he got off work. We got some laundry detergent and caffeine for me. Before heading home, passed by Rotella's factory/bakery to get some bread. Got 3 loaves of bread, as we were paying, the cashier told us we were the 100th customer and the bread is free. Hee. That was a good surprise. We got 3 loaves of bread for free and it was the first time that we went there. NG has been telling me that we'd go there but it was only last Monday that we actually did and it turned out a goody one. He said, we'll get our bread at that place from now on and it's way cheaper there vs the other grocery places. Gotta love free bread.

NG and I will have our civil wedding ceremony next Friday. Seems like yesterday that we were talking about that day and now, it will happen in a week. We don't have any preparations for it, it's not really a wedding wedding where there are invitations and the works. It works for us, for now, we couldn't afford a wedding right now. With all the expenses ahead that deals with my status adjustment. It's not cheap. I want to start working soon, so, I can help NG with the expenses. I do have something to wear, will have to get NG's this weekend or on Monday, he doesn't like shopping. MajorDad emailed me and that we should meet and get something for NG. We got the rings, just waiting for it to arrived. I didn't think about the engraving until NG said we should add that. So, we did. Would be arriving this weekend me thinks. And that's about it, we might have lunch the next day after but still not decided since NG doesn't know if people will come. Will see. We got engaged in 2006 and it's 2008, we're still together and actually going through with this. We just have to see where this will take us. Not everyday you can meet someone the way we did and actually have something good come of it. I still can't believe that I'm actually here now...with NG...but it is what it is. One day at a time right? So far, so good. Please include us in your prayers. Will be appreciated. God bless.

Blackout...

My crush for this guy started when I was still in HS, that's quite a long time ago, and I still have this high school girl type crush whenever I see a recent photo of him. He was the Bench undie model for years until he got "overweight" and lost his right [if you can say that] to be the underwear model for Bench. Nowadays, it's Jon Avila, Dingdong Dantes [my friend said he kinda look like Zoolander whenever he poses...], Rafael Rossell who dons the latest undies for Bench.

Last Friday night, Bench had it's every other year denim/underwear show in the Philippines. If I was still there, I KNOW I would have been there to see that. Jomari is not as underwear ad worthy as 10 years ago, but he still and will always be my Bench undie guy. SIGH. He'll turn 32 next month. I should update the website I made for him me thinks. I've been saying that for the longest time. I just might. If I don't get too lazy. I got the images from the Team Kapamilya Multiply group, click on the link to see more pix from the Blackout Denim/Underwear show. I miss buying stuff from BENCH, they have a limited online store as of the moment, still not the same as being inside the store and being surrounded by the colorful undies. I lovelike undies on men. Bow. Don't ask. It just how it is. Hee.

My EBC friends...missing them...this was taken when Slutty Nurse [2nd from left, I don't remember how she became the "slutty nurse" coz she's really not, I think, we got it from FRIENDS...I don't remember for sure] had a recent vacay in the Philippines. The lucky dude in the pic is Neo.

Eeee, Ada aka Slutty Nurse, Miss Gwynnie and Doctora aka Nerdy Nurse [she recently passed the nursing exams...we now have two nurses in the group...CONGRATS again Doctora Nurse...your being studious and incommunicado during your review months really paid off...a mini wave for you...whooo]. I miss our VS [vodka session] gurls. Not fun to drink by myself. Maybe, I'll drink tonight.

I have been playing this game UNO!!!!!! My cousin Nadine and I used to play this card game back when I was still in the Philippines, now they have a computer version of the famous card game. Wheee. I wish it's an online game where you can play against real people though, that would really be FUN.

Been here in O for 2 months now...where did the time go? What has changed? I definitely gained weight. I haven't been eating much but the lack of activity [like walking a lot back when I was still working] on a daily basis could be the reason for my gain weight. I need a weighing scale, NG promised me one. I'm not overly conscious about it but I know how not easy it is to lose weight, I never really tried, I just played badminton a lot a few years and that's where it all started. I miss playing badminton. Who wants to play versus me? I'm not good at it but I can hit the ball when need to. Hee. I wake up at 5:45am every weekday, the same time as NG gets up. Then just do whatever is needed to do during the day. My computer is always on, just on standby until someone from home gets online and started chatting with me. Had a long chat conference with two of my friends yesterday, must have been more than 5 hours. So many subjects have been talked about. We even tried voice chat. Ain't technology cool? Yes, it is.

I went to the mall again today, not much time though, I was there for only two hours because had to get home before NG gets here since they keys were with me. Saw one skirt that I actually really liked. It was white, AND I'm not a fan of white clothing but for some reason, I liked it instantly. Might go back to get it. It was on sale too, so, it's like, coolness.

It's Saturday night, NG's night to unwind [loud tunes + drinking his Yukon Jack], so, I'm here in the living room, unwinding with him in the other room, I can hear the tunes LOUD and CLEAR out here even with the door closed. It's loud and I don't like it but that's how he unwinds AND knowing how a creature of habit he is, he will lose his mind if he don't get that each weekend. Hee. It's all about compromise yes? We have so many things to discover from each other, even if we've been together [long distance] since December 2004, we still have a lot of things to discover [both good and bad] about each other. An Aunt told me about something she read about this guy who's had a successful and lasting relationship, the guy said, you must have the 3 Cs: Commitment, Communication & Compromise. Will just have to keep that in mind for now yes? Hee. Sounds easy but it could be tricky.

Must go and play my game for now...and I think, I'd have a few glasses of AbDew or AbCran-apple. Have a good day. God bless.

Love is a 4 letter word...

Ask the Love Guru [got this from Beliefnet]

>>What is a Love Guru?
My goal is to help and guide people to finding LOVE. Love with themselves, love with others and just surround themselves with love. Love is the ultimate jacket that one should wear to face the world. Love is a powerful force when used for good.

>>When Will I Meet "The One?"
Greetings Gurudev,
I am wondering, what can you share with singles who seek their soul mates? How will they know when "The One" comes along? How will they recognize this special person? What will your special movie teach us about this?
I think that when you meet someone that you are going to be with, you just know. However, soul mates are sometimes difficult to identify. They aren't all prince charming holding a red rose and making the bedroom eyes at you. They may be disguised as the postman with the B.O. who just needs a chance. And some new shorts. Yikes! Lower the hem, Chief, because no one ordered that special delivery! I think that to find your soul mate you need to be open minded. Let people in! And as for what my movie will teach, it shall be peace, loving yourself, being one with the universal energy that courses through all things, and that the price of a Turbo Tub of popcorn is at least a dollar too high. It's hot corn, for Pitka sakes!

>>Should I Train My Man?
After 7 years, he's willing to put down the seat on the toilet and various other tasks. But, when I say, "jump", he doesn't say, "how high." Love Guru, do you recommend "training your man"?
Training anything is very difficult. Trust me I know, I've got ostriches, elephants and all kinds of other critters running around my ashram like they freaking own the place. And they also refuse to turn the lights off when they leave a room. Annoyyyyying! My electric bill is higher than Guru Maltanto on Chibatar berries. As for your hubby, I don't think training is the answer, because every being on this Earth should walk their own journey while you walk yours. This is the most basic law of the universe... respect. Every person's path is their own for a reason. Like my gardener, who has chosen his path right past my bathroom window when I am busy "dropping the little Gurus off at the pool." Perhaps I have shared too much, but you get the idea. And if you also happen to know about any new, respectful gardeners, let me know.

>>Should I Stay With Him?
Have you ever been in a situation where you love someone but you also hate them at the same time? I certainly have. You love them for the wonderful things that they do for you, but you hate them for putting you through "unnecessary torture", by not doing those things "with you."
I hear you man-knockin', so I hope this answer is a-rockin'. Men are like asparagus: good for you in principle, but too much makes your pee smell. I say it's time to mix up your diet. Be heart smart and read the labels first when you are relationship shopping. Not too much fat, enough sugar, and no MSG (Mortal fear of Sharing and Growth) Otherwise you'll keep going home with bags of bad news. And that just gets you a sore back and a fridge full of fury. Good luck!

>>Should I Return to My Ex?
I have been in a relationship for 5 years to a great guy. We get along well and co-exist happily. The problem is, there's no passion anymore. Any kind-of sex is always initiated by me and it's been this way for a long time. I've tried talking to him and I get no where. Recently, my ex resurfaced and the spark is hotter than ever. He makes me feel beautiful and sexy! My boyfriend rarely takes his eyes off the video game when I enter the room. It's getting really hard to stay faithful! Any advice would be most appreciated.
Five years is a long time, for anything. Ask Braksheer down in the village, who hasn't trimmed his nose hairs in almost six. He looks like he's jumping rope when he walks. But back to you: After putting so much of your life spirit and energy into an individual, and it still being bad, while a previous individual is looking good, could lead to a big problem. For Mr. Five Year Lazy Video Game Boring Weiner! Tell him your worries, and that if there is no change following your chat, then it is time to seek greener pastures. Not necessarily with your past. It's all about moving forward! But if the ex is still as foxy as I am guessing, then I say "release the hounds!"

>>Can I Get Over Him?
I had a break up one year ago and I still love that person. I am sure he loves me too but there is an issue between us that bothers him too much and can't be resolved. Can I do something about it or am I supposed to remain sad and depressed???
First of all, you should never plan to remain sad and depressed. Definitely take steps to alleviate the sadness and depression. Turn on a fan of positivity to whisk those negative energies away. Perhaps once they are gone, you will miss this man less. It is also a truth that things happen for a reason. If it didn't work out, there was a reason. If that reason is a big boulder standing in your path together, you can agree to try and get around it separately and meet on the other side to continue your journey together. But if on your way around the boulder, you happen to meet a sexy lifeguard who has a nice tan and shiny white teeth who asks you to join him at the Burger Shack for dinner, you can alter your path. You are the master of your own course through life, and let's be honest... a free burger is always tough to pass up.

>>Should I Wait for Him?
I am talking to this guy, he sound like everything that I want in a man but right now he is very occupied with his grandmother being sick with lung cancer. The way it sound like she might not have much time to live. I don't know if I should just sit around and wait for him to take care of his grandmother than be with me what should I do? Should I wait for him?
Well, this is a tricky situation. Illness is a sad reality in our world. However, I don't think hanging out with you and hanging with his g-mom have to be mutually exclusive. You just need to decide if you really like this guy. If you do, then put on your understanding pants and stick with him like peanut butter on rice (an old family recipe--great for when your poop pipe is packed) If you do not like him that way, then let that butterfly fly. I think that the g-mom is a non-issue. She could be here today, gone tomorrow or here today, and gone never, like my great aunt Felicia, who was run down by a rogue steer, got pneumonia from the puddle she fell in, and then outlived the entire family. She claims it was because of vitamins and prayer, but I think it was just pure old fashioned anger. Bottom line: if you like him, stick with him.

>>How Do I Find a Good BF?
I am so glad you asked this question, and believe me, you are not the first. So here is my answer. The way you find a good Buttocks Funnel is to shop around online, then go to this Swedish place that... what? Ohhhh, a Boy Friend! I knew that is what you meant. No, I'm not lying. Yes, my face is normally this red. I'm part Irish. Let's move on. I think to find a good boy friend, you need to find someone who complements you and who you are, but with the extra yummy of romance. An equal, with similar interests, and knowledge, and goals you can enjoy on a deep personal level. It also doesn't hurt if they are a tiger in the sack! They need to be a good match in all areas, but a word of caution: before someone else can love you, you must love yourself. But don't love yourself too much. It'll make you go cross eyed, and then the only boys interested in you will be optometrists, and they're a little boring.

15 Love Lessons From 'Sex and the City'
by Valerie Reiss [Senior Editor at Beliefnet]

I'm single, a native New Yorker, a writer, and a former sex columnist. To say I could relate to Carrie's NYC existence is an understatement--if you add hilarious dialogue, many guys, a dream apartment, and a wardrobe worth more than most journalists make in a lifetime.

Through my late 20s I was with the girls all the way, even though I often thought their romantic choices were misguided, obviously wrong, spiritually and psychologically clueless, superficial, selfish, and jaded. Pretty much like most of my own.

But in a city where love can be as elusive as affordable housing, SATC gave so many of us perspective, validation, and reminders of the core lessons of love--sometimes in spite of itself, sometimes in the scripts. With the ladies hitting the big screen this week, here's a bit of what I've learned, or remembered, about love thanks to Carrie & Co.

1. Single is Not a Dirty Word
The SATC gals transformed "single"--"spinster"'s more evolved cousin--from being a hole to a presence; they made singledom cool. Even when it hurt.

One of my favorite moments is when Carrie's silver Manolos get swiped from a smug-married's apartment and the friend refuses to reimburse her. She lectures Carrie about spending too much on shoes and not enough on family, playing right in to her singleton's shame.

This, after Carrie has bought engagement, wedding, shower, and baby gifts for her. In a genius move, Carrie registers herself at Manolo Blahnik just for those shoes, single "bride" that she is, forcing the friend to pay up. To me this said the single life is just as valid as the married. We deserve as many gifts and even blessings from our friends and society, regardless of what others might think of our struggles and choices.

2. It's Okay to Expose All to Your Girlfriends
Women talked about sex with their friends long before SATC. But the show gave us permission on a large scale to get graphic and detailed in cathartic and hilarious ways. It was like a six-season long Consciousness Raising group with better outfits.

This seems especially true when it comes to discussing self-pleasuring; it's now much more socially acceptable for women to admit they do it ("I'm getting carpal tunnel syndrome"), and even talk about the tools they use (Rabbit, anyone?). By treating it like any other normal, human function, a burden was lifted, even for those of us who were raised to be open about sex.

3. Fate is Not Always Fate
It's so tempting to interpret the tea leaves of love, to decide that fate is (finally) working in our favor. When Trey saved Charlotte from being mowed down by a speeding taxi, she decided it was fate. Not just that he was a nice guy who saved her life, but that he must be the guy to live out her "marry tale" with.

Turns out--not so much, and I think after that divorce, Char developed a very different notion of fate, i.e.-we don't know how the universe works and just because it seems like synchronicity, it doesn't mean you have to marry the dude. A lesson better remembered than re-experienced.

4. Sometimes to Be Real You Have to Get Ugly
When Charlotte first met her handsomely chiseled divorce lawyer, she kept to the prim, nice decorum that defined her. When she realized she needed to be fierce--and ugly--to battle her Bunny-in-law, she dropped him for sweaty, obnoxious, bald Harry Goldenblatt and then felt free to be as nasty as she wanted to be, fangs and all. Turns out he found her "incredibly sexy" anyway. And once she was able to shatter her preppy, WASPy notion of her ideal man, voila, there he was, right in front of her.

5. Be Vulnerable
More than anyone else on the show, Samantha and her mien of steel taught us that true strength is in opening and trust. She started to get this from her girl-flame Maria ("I've got monogomy, I think I caught it from you people") but mostly from her hot-hot boyfriend Smith Jarrod.

First, he forced on her his "perverse" desire to hold hands, and then, most touchingly, shaved off his golden locks when she lost hers to chemo. We all have an inner Samantha--the part that feigns bravado in the face of pain and trusts no one. Watching her set down her insecurity-as-sword reminded all us tough girls to do the same.

6. There's a Difference Between Childlike and Childish
In perhaps my favorite episode, a guy named Wade had a comic book store, a great record collection, and a scooter. Carrie was justifiably wooed when he drew a cartoon of her telling her to call him. And the girl needed some fun! Mr. Big? Sexy, complicated, but no bag of jacks.

With Wade, she played video games, took a spin on the scooter, got stoned on the balcony of his surprisingly vast Park Avenue apartment. Turned out the guy was living with his parents. And not only that, he lied to his mom that they were smoking Carrie's pot. Lesson? If he seems like a kid, investigate to make sure he's also an adult.

7. Know When to Kiss Goodbye
Miranda asked a date up to her apartment. He declined, claiming to have "an early meeting." Later, she asked Carrie's man of the hour for insight. Berger said, "He's just not that into you," and "When a guy's really into you, he's coming upstairs, meeting or no meeting."

Miranda is instantly liberated, giddy with the blame-free simplicity of it. Of course in real life, sadly, it's not always so simple. But through this and countless other moments, the show taught us that letting go is never easy--even when he's "not into you"--but that if you don't walk away when you know you should, only misery, over-analysis, and disappointment awaits.

8. Don't Mistake Scraps for Jewels
"It was the single most encouraging moment in our relationship." Was Carrie talking about Big sharing his heart with her? Giving her a thoughtful present? Nope. She said this when he gave her the "only" extra pink toothbrush head one night.

Sure, it was the only baby step toward accepting her into his life that he was capable of. But all of us need to love ourselves enough not to mistake glitter for diamonds, scraps for a meal--exactly what that toothbrush head was.

9. Read the Signs
When Carrie got engaged to Aidan, she promptly strung the gorgeous Harry Winston ring around her neck instead of putting it on her finger. Score one for costume designer Patricia Field for the fresh accessory, minus one very big one for the happy future of Carrie and Aidan. Both continued to ignore the signs of doom--like so many of us do--in exchange for hope.

It was a reminder to all of us not to ignore those persistent yet subtle doubts, accumulating red flags--and full-blown panic attacks--no matter how much we want something to work out.

10. Patience & Compromise
Sure, the show was often about taking, and Goddess knows the characters' self-absorption grated horribly sometimes. But as the ladies matured, we saw more and more examples of selfless compromise.

Miranda agreed to have her son Brady baptized even though it conflicted strongly with her beliefs; Charlotte converted to Judaism to be with Harry; and most hilariously, Harry put on underwear to sit on Charlotte's pristine white sofa. As for patience, the girls had a giant Birkin bag full of it for each other. And Carrie, in spite of herself had it big-time with Big.

11. Hold Out for Romance and Butterflies
This is a tricky one, right? Knowing when to hold out for what you want and when to embrace what you have. The SATC girls grappled with that again and again, knowingly, and not.

Romance (and belly full of excitedly batting wings) is fleeting--and yet it's really hard to sustain a happy union that never had it. After dancing with bitter Berger in the Hamptons one night, Carrie reflects with clarity: "Some people are settling down, some people are settling, and some people refuse to settle for anything less than butterflies."

12. Romance Isn't What You Think It Will Be
After the most romantic French meal ever--candlelight, fromage, the works, Charlotte and Harry are in bed, gazing at each other and then suddenly find themselves doubled over with food poisoning. They trade urgent, loud, smelly runs to the bathroom all night long.

"There's a moment in every relationship when romance gives way to reality," Carrie says of the two lovers and her own Big fart incident. "Surviving a night of food poisoning together wasn't the stuff of great romance, but it was the stuff of lasting love." And then we see Harry and Charlotte holding hands in a sweet, real, puddle on the bathroom floor.

13. Love Beyond Yourself
Though ever-cynical Miranda adored her baby, she was not instantly maternal, referring to him as "meatloaf" at one point. But she eventually warms to motherhood. And later on, she grows her heart an extra size when she cares for her mother-in-law with dementia, gently bathing her in one especially heart-breaking scene. The girls--and all of us--are at their best when they give and extend themselves to others.

14. Chicks Stick Together
The entire show is about the consistency of friendship (even when alleged off-screen spats seem to be visible on-screen). They fight, work it out, offer support, drive each other nuts, and always come back together--whether it's Carrie making sure there's no "cheerleading" during Miranda's birth, or Charlotte giving Carrie her old engagement ring.

Toward the very end of the series, when Carrie is in Paris, Big sits with the remaining women, polling them for advice. "You guys are the biggest loves in her life," he says. "A guy is just lucky if he comes in fourth." We can all do to remember to treat our friends like the primary love providers they can be, even when we're in deep, central union with a partner.

15. Always Come Home to Yourself
When Carrie is off with the Russian in Paris (wearing that amazing tulle dress that goes on forever), she loses her signature nameplate necklace. A heavy-handed metaphor? Maybe. A key lesson in all relationships? Yes.

It's so easy for women especially to lose their identity in romantic relationships--we tend to merge with our lovers, sometimes dropping our own "names" in the process. Ms. Bradshaw does find her necklace, and any good shrink (or scriptwriter) would say it's important to note that it was with her all along, fallen into the lining of a Dior purse.

The series ends with these words from Carrie, after she has gone back home to New York, to herself, her friends, and her Big love: "...the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous."

I've been here in Omaha for 3 weeks now. Still adjusting. I'm so not used to being by myself for a long period of time. Sigh. But that's been the case here. I want to work but I can't yet until I get a work permit which will be filed with my status adjustment once NG and I get married. I thought I can file the work permit first but turns out I can't. Oh well. Trying to find things to do here. I pretty much been productive. "Organizing" NG's stuff here. Not fun to do by myself but it keeps me busy. I even alphabetized his CDs too.

TV has been my company for most of the time here at home. Comedy Central is my fave. I get to watch MADtv, Scrubs, Just Shoot Me, Dharma & Greg. I steer away from the drama shows though. Must make myself laugh at most times when I'm alone or else, I'd just be crying. Oh well. NG's cable got 351 channels. He even got this movie on demand channel, it's like having your own dvd playlist available 24/7. It's quite cool. We've seen Office Space [Ron Livingston/Jennifer Aniston] twice now. I watched Before Sunrise, Serendipity, High Fidelity last week.

42 months with NG last Friday, we didn't celebrate that day, just stayed home but we had dinner and strawb/banana margarita at La Hacienda, we love it there.

NG had a day off last Sunday, we had lunch with his dad at China Buffet, gotta love the shrimp there. Then NG and I watched Zohan. Loved it. Gotta love Adam Sandler. We might watch the Love Guru next.

Must end this one for now, nothing much else to blog about. I still have one blog on draft, it's actually a survey-type meme, will finish that next time. Thanks for reading. Have a good day. Keep the faith. God Bless.